As a Dominant, do you want to inflict pain on your submissive?
As a submissive, would you consent to a painful spanking as punishment?
Does the idea of it turn you on or off?
I already wrote a little on my feelings about punishment but to answer the first prompt a little more – maybe.
I have a complicated relationship with pain. I’ve identified as a masochist for a long time and continue to do so. I learned early on that pain felt good in a way that maybe it shouldn’t. It could make me orgasm if I was in the right headspace. Pain made me feel loved and powerful and small all at the same time and has been a central interest of mine in kink. I enjoy pursuing things because they are physically painful.
On the other hand, I live with chronic pain. A couple of years ago, I developed sciatica issues and use a cane part-time. That kind is frustrating and irritating. It prevents me from doing things. I have a hard time with my sciatica and not feeling like my body is betraying me.
However, pain in play is controlled. It’s a love note from a cane or paddle or Daddy’s uncanny ability to find pressure points. It’s something that feels good and takes me to space and shuts my brain up for a few minutes. I enjoy pain because it helps me see that I can handle something difficult and come out the other side just fine.
