As a submissive, would you consent to a painful spanking as punishment?
As a Dominant, do you want to inflict pain on your submissive?
Does the idea of it turn you on or off?
I already wrote a little about my feelings about punishment but to answer the first prompt a little more – maybe.
I have a complicated relationship with pain. I’ve identified as a masochist for a long time and continue to do so. I learned very early on that pain felt good in a way that maybe it shouldn’t. Pain could make me orgasm if I was in the right space and it could happen often. Pain made me feel loved and powerful and small all at the same time and has been a central interest of mine in kink. I enjoy pursuing things because they are physically painful.
On the other hand, I live with chronic pain. A couple of years ago, I developed sciatica issues and use a cane part-time. That pain is frustrating and irritating. That pain prevents me from doing things. That kind of pain isn’t what I want to experience.
Pain in play is controlled. Pain in play is a love note from a cane or paddle or Daddy’s uncanny ability to find pressure points. It’s something that feels good and takes me to space and shuts my brain up for a few minutes. I enjoy pain because it helps me see that I can handle something difficult and come out the other side just fine.
And it turns me. I find that experiencing pain is extremely erotic for me, especially if my top is getting sadistic pleasure out of it. I enjoy suffering for someone. What can I say? I’m a masochist.